Category Archives : The Daily Grain


Are we looking without seeing?

Following on from yesterday’s Daily Grain about seeing more than we are currently seeing I want to extrapolate on that Simon and Garfunkel Sound of Silence analogy. And it is this: we are looking without seeing. It’s something that I think is endemic, where we look at things, we acknowledge that they are there, but […]

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The folly of * if only *

The other thing that leads us to believe that relationships are tough and that good ones are hard to find and also that leads to a lot of disappointment in relationships, is this hankering over someone because of their potential. So we see that bright light of a gorgeous relationship with someone because of qualities […]

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The language of love

Here’s another language that is universally understood and it’s the language of love. This is not a *new age* *Kumbaya* interpretation. This is real. And I will give you an example. When I was in college and traveling, unfortunately, on a public bus in India – if you’ve ever seen a public bus in India, […]

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People speaking without talking

So enough about communications we shouldn’t be having and relationships that we shouldn’t be having how about what we should have? My ideal communication is the reverse of that – people speaking without talking. We might have the idea that meaningful conversations must involve profound philosophy or the serious things of life and this is […]

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Relationships are hard work? Why?

So let’s talk about this working hard at relationships business – it’s such an unnecessary perception, that relationships are hard work or even that relationships should be hard work or what is more commonly taught that you should work hard at relationships. So in my book that is all the nonsense, relationships can and should […]

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Has communication taken place?

“The biggest problem with communication is the idea that it has taken place” I love this quote and it neatly sums up what very often goes wrong in relationships. It’s also all very nicely encapsulated in the song the Sound of Silence, where they say people talking without speaking, people hearing without listening and right […]

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