Category Archives : Relationships


Never discount your reservations

Today I want to talk to you about intuition. Many people think this is something of a psychic phenomenon but intuition you could rename as reservations. On the positive side of it, it has many other different names but let’s take the negative side of it for the moment. So reservations – never discount your […]

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Show up as worthy of respect

Yesterday I mentioned that it is not in our power to give absolution or forgiveness and that is true but here’s something that is completely in our power and it is this: to remove any trace of bias or expectation for negativity in ourselves so that when we approach relationships we approach it with a […]

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You cannot give anyone absolution

So to wrap up and close the loop from yesterday’s Daily Grain in the same way that you cannot receive true absolution from an external source, you also cannot give it, right? What’s sauce for the goose… When you absolve someone or when you forgive someone true healing and true reconciliation, so in that sense, […]

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Absolution is not external

I’ve done a couple of Daily Grains on the themes of guilt and shame and also forgiveness so today I want to do one on something that is at the root of both these things and it is absolution. So for good or ill absolution cannot come from an external source – true absolution comes […]

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Relationships are like mirrors

You have probably heard this numerous times that relationships are like mirrors and very often this is used to indicate that relationships show us things in ourselves that we should modify or that we are projecting on others and things that we can usefully better in ourselves. So today I want you to look at […]

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Relationships and your life path

I wonder if you’ve had any answers to yesterday’s question about what your life path is? And I hope you do because the serious downside of not knowing what your life path is, is then you involve other people, you get into groups that you think suit you and then you find after months or […]

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Manners and respect for others

Let’s talk about a few other things that can be tools against this unraveling of society and, hopefully, our not inevitable decay and entropy. And these tools are quite simple actually. They are manners, common courtesy, consideration, and etiquette, in short. It’s something that is seen to be either a luxury or things that are […]

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When you should “Just do it”

I must say I am not a particularly staunch proponent of the “just do it” tribe because I have found very often when people just do it they have leaped into all sorts of complications and unintended consequences. So I’m more of a “plan for it and then do it” variety. The “look before you […]

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