I heard this from someone the other day and I think it highlights a common misperception and this is what they said that they cannot spend hours thinking about themselves they must always stop and start thinking about others.
And this was meant to be a good thing that they can’t think about themselves they must think about others, and I think it’s a very common belief and way of being in the self help world. But in fact, let me blast this myth all over the place right now. You absolutely must think of yourself.
This gets a bad rap because it is associated with narcissism, and it could be narcissistic if you think of yourself in those terms. So the how of how you think about yourself is very critical. And the recommended how, shall we say, is think about yourself in terms of who you are.
What makes up the person that you are.
And if you do think about yourself that way then you get to know yourself and until you know yourself you can’t actually think of others in a very fruitful or meaningful manner because then others are just seen through a distorted lens because you’re seeing them through all the things that you think you are.
So the best thing you can do for yourself if you want to help others, if you want to be compassionate about others is to think about yourself.
Because at the end of the day you can’t truly help others if you’re not helping yourself. And you can’t truly help yourself until you know what help you need until you know who you are and what direction you want to go in, right?
So forget about the idea of that thinking about yourself is just navel gazing. No. If you think about yourself with a view to resolving all the levels inside of you so that your life is without conflict that is a very worthy exercise.